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4 Things You Can Do Today to Crush Negative Thinking

I was recently scrolling on Twitter (yes, I know) and I came across a tweet that really made me pause.

I wasn’t alone in thinking that this seemingly obvious yet easily overlooked choice was in its own way, a revolutionary act. At the time I saw it, this had been retweeted over 288,000 times. It got me thinking about all the “what ifs” that have kept me up at night, stolen my thoughts throughout the day, and kept me from pursuing things I thought could make my life better.

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Letting go of relationships that hurt your sobriety

How To Break Up With Friends Who Are Bad For Your Sobriety

Congratulations! You’re newly sober and absolutely killing it. It’s been a few weeks (or months) and you’re finding your sober stride. Things are looking up! You’re working out, you’re taking care of yourself, you’re reveling in this new you that is radiating all over this blue planet of ours andddddd…. you’ve never been so lonely. 

As it turns out, this amazingly sober “you” is having trouble connecting to the people in your life. 

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What to do when you want to get loved ones on board with your sobriety

How To Get Others On Board With Your Sobriety

You’ve finally done it. After months (years?) of going back and forth with yourself about your drinking habits, self-reflecting, devouring recovery memoirs and self-help books, and secretly joining Facebook groups for sober people, you’ve decided to change your life. You’re going to quit drinking. 

Congratulations! You got this, and on those days when you don’t, there is an entire virtual community of folks in the exact same boat who will support you and keep you on track.

But what about the people in your real life? The ones who call you to go to the bar every Saturday or your significant other who owns half the bottles in that liquor cabinet in your living room? Or what about your work boo who likes to bring over a bottle of rosé and dish about all the people you can’t stand at the office? How are you going to tell them that you’re not drinking anymore?

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why you should be careful of addiction transferrence

The Big Mistake You Should Avoid When Getting Sober

Over the past few months, I’ve been struggling to piece together what in the world is happening with me and soda, in particular, diet sodas. When I quit drinking alcohol in December 2016, I realized that I was consuming way more soda and sugary foods than I had before. I was told that it’s normal, that lots of people “switch” to sugar when they stop drinking. Switch?

I’ve been thinking a lot about that word.  If I’ve switched, that means I’ve taken one thing and replaced it with another. In this case, that thing is drinking copious amounts of alcohol (not great) with drinking copious amounts of diet soda (also not great). It was my last remaining vice and I desperately wanted it. But it also indicated that I hadn’t done a single thing to heal whatever drove me to drink too much in the first place.

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World Mental Health Day 2018

It’s #WorldMentalHealthDay! So many of us suffer from mental health issues. It’s important that we devote time and resources to understanding mental health, eliminating the stigma associated with it, and work to improve the overall quality of life for anyone who is suffering.

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Why we need to talk about social media addiction and our use of technology

Social Media Addiction and How We Waste Our Lives A Little Each Day

I recently sat down to read a fabulous article in The Atlantic profiling a guy named Tristan Harris who is making it his life’s work to design and encourage other companies to design more ethical software that will help break the increasingly vicious cycle of technology addiction in our lives. The article caught my eye because I’ve been feeling increasingly bothered by the amount of time I spend reaching for my phone, getting lost in the abyss, wasting hours of time perusing through social media, usually mindlessly. I’ve come close to installing phone use apps like BreakFree or Moment to see just how bad I’ve gotten, but I have yet to bring myself to do it because I know it will not be good news and I’m not sure I’m ready to commit to another major life overhaul. That’s ridiculous fear-talk right there, folks.

Can you imagine for a moment? I know I have a problem, that I am on my phone way too much and it eats away at my energy for other, clearly more productive tasks. I catch myself grabbing the phone for no reason other than pure instinct and habit. I’ve read books and articles from very intelligent people waving red flags in my face imploring me to wake up and get a grip on my screen time. It’s become such an epidemic that they are creating apps for our phones now to save us from ourselves (and our phones). Yet, I don’t take that next big step to use an app that will lock my social media apps if I spend too much time on them because I’m not 100% ready to face down this demon. Sound familiar?

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