Whenever you're making a big change in your life, it's important to understand the process your brain and body are going through. More specifically, I want you to have a solid grasp of habits: what they are and how to change them.
Sobriety is about more than abstaining from alcohol. It’s about dealing with the issues and internal struggles that led you to abusing alcohol and personal growth and improvement.
This section provides information on personal development and personal growth to help people live their best, sober life.
I'm sure you've all read the articles that talk about why we almost NEVER keep our New Year's resolutions. According to studies, about 90% of us will fail to achieve the goals we set on January 1st. Raise your hand if you've been guilty of this in the past.
Are you tired of your own bullshit? I'm sure you'd agree that we all have our "stuff" we're trying to handle. But some people are doing a much better job than the rest of us at breaking their bad habits. When I first got sober, I had a lot going on (tough pregnancy) and I used it as an excuse for letting in new bad habits. Now that I've got a couple of years of sobriety under my belt, I'm actively working to fix it.
In 1999, I moved from a small town in Indiana to a private women's college in Atlanta, GA. I hated Indiana and desperately needed to get out. At first, Atlanta electrified me. The people, the school, the opportunities. I felt alive for the first time in forever. Until I didn't.
I recently sat down to read a fabulous article in The Atlantic profiling a guy named Tristan Harris who is making it his life’s work to design and encourage other companies to design more ethical software that will help break the increasingly vicious cycle of technology addiction in our lives. The article caught my eye because I’ve been feeling increasingly bothered by the amount of time I spend reaching for my phone, getting lost in the abyss, wasting hours of time perusing through social media, usually mindlessly. I’ve come close to installing phone use apps like BreakFree or Moment to see just how bad I’ve gotten, but I have yet to bring myself to do it because I know it will not be good news and I’m not sure I’m ready to commit to another major life overhaul. That’s ridiculous fear-talk right there, folks. Can you imagine for a moment? I know I have a problem, that I am on my phone way too much and it eats away at my energy for other, clearly more productive tasks. I catch myself grabbing the phone for no reason other than pure instinct and habit. I’ve read books and articles from very intelligent people waving red flags in my face imploring me to wake up and get a grip on my screen time. It’s become such an epidemic that they are creating apps for our phones now to save us from ourselves (and our phones). Yet, I don’t take that next big step to use an app that will lock my social media apps if I spend too much time on them because I’m not 100% ready to face down this demon. Sound familiar?