Sobriety In The Age of Social Media

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Getting Sober On Twitter When I started my sobriety journey two years ago, social media (Twitter specifically) became a haven for me. Twitter, you say? Indeed. I created a totally new account for my blog and carefully curated my following list so that I was only interacting with other members of the sober community and […]

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Owning My Sobriety

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On December 19, 2016 (for what felt like the millionth time) I decided I was done with alcohol. Nada mas.

It had wreaked havoc on my life in more ways than I could count. My health was deteriorating, my weight was skyrocketing, I was depressed, riddled with anxiety, and zombie crawling through life. That I functioned at all was a small miracle.

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The Easy Way You Can Break Bad Habits Starting Today

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I recently listened to a Ted Talk by Judson Brewer about bad habits and how to break them. If you’re reading this right now, chances are you have a bad habit that you would like to break. He talked about using mindfulness as a strategy to break bad habits, a strategy that I have used in my own life to help get myself out of some pretty dark places, so his lecture really spoke to me and I hope that it can be effective for you as well. 

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What Most Self-Help Gurus Get Wrong About Big Changes

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Change is hard. Like, real earth-moving, deep down in your bones change is hard. That should seem like an obvious statement, but for me, for years, it really wasn’t. I was being flanked on all sides by industry professionals telling me that change was easy. I just had to genuinely want it. If I devoted all my mental energy to wanting this change, the Universe was going to intervene and say, “I got you, girlfriend!” and all was going to be right. If it wasn’t, it was my fault for not wanting it badly enough.

I once read a book where the author told me us that she was battling alcohol and cocaine addiction, a real party chick, and was wrecking her life. Then one fateful day she woke up and heard a voice say, “if you get clean, you’ll have everything you ever dreamed of” and that was it for her. She got clean that very day and everything (seemingly) was sunshine and rainbows from then on (at least on the not using front).

I don’t know about you, but no such voice ever intervened in my life. No magical switch ever flipped in my brain and made all my pain and struggles go away.

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Drowning in Alcohol Culture

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Alcohol is everywhere. It permeates our culture. It’s in advertisements, movies, literature, our yoga classes (which still baffles me). Before I started getting serious about sobriety, I hadn’t really noticed because it was so ingrained into my everyday life. Of course we can find it in all the old familiar places: bars, clubs, restaurants. But it doesn’t end there. We’ve got book clubs with wine. Baby showers with wine. Painting classes with wine. Concerts in the park. With wine. We are constantly being inundated with the idea that we need alcohol to have fun, socialize, kick back, or function successfully.

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